The secret of dating success is so simple when you know how – its all about learning the art of multi dating. When there are plenty more options open – even options that are not as interesting we naturally become far less all consuming.
The dating problems almost always arrive at the same conclusion. One or the other feels things are either moving too fast or too slow. Everyone these days seem to be so out of sync with each other.
Most singles, be it male or female ultimately want the same thing – to find a soul-mate fall in love and settle down. The first step being moving in together, then hopefully marriage and babies in that order – though sometimes it happens the other way around.
Generally it’s the girls who tend to want to rush things. The biological clock panic sets in and we are resentful if any of our precious time is wasted grooming our unsuspecting new flirtation into the final product. What we fail to realise is if we just let things go with the flow and let nature take its course, many of the single 30 somethings would actually have their dream by now. What happens is our whole personality changes – we become so focused on making thing right that it ultimately all goes wrong!
I have more men mention the ‘M’ Marriage word than women – girls they are just as keen as you – they just don’t want to feel cajoled into it and they also don’t want to feel their male ‘hunter’ instinct is left obsolete. We women spend so much time doing all the chasing and rescuing – don’t get me started on our tendency to want to be our bloke’s total saviour all the time!
Of course now I have found the secret I preach this to my clients day in day out – multi date – don’t just arrange dates with those you have chemistry with go out with whomever is available.
Pose yourself as a challenge to your suitors and you will have the relationship success you crave.